Dr. Ali Behzadnia :: دکتر علی بهزادنیا

Fifteen hundred years ago, in tribal community of Arrogant Arabs, Mohammad (PBUH) a homeless, orphan, not prophet then, at age 25 married a woman, 15 years older, widowed twice, when girls were buried at birth in his community, Khadijah, of Christian back ground made the proposal, he accepted. She lived with him for almost 28 years, as the only women in his life, raised six children from him and gave up all she had, to die in hunger and poverty at age 62-63 and was buried by Mohammad in Sha’b Abou talib, a forbidden valley, no shrine and not even a sign to identify her grave. She was in fact buried in the heart and mind of Muhammad (PBUH), as he always had tears in his eyes when Khadija’s name was mentioned. Mohammad (PBUH) now a prophet and homeless again, migrated with an older man, on his feet to Madinah. He married twelve other women then after, most of them older than him with the exception of Aisha and Maria. Among them were Jewish Sophia or Safyyah and Christian Maria, who never converted to His faith. He had no child from those later marriages except the 18-year-old Maria, who married him at age 62 and gave birth to Ibrahim. The son died at six months of age.Prophet (PBUH), died shortly after. The young wife, still Christian, was advised to re marry, but she had the proof of being Mohammad’s wife, (Even today majority of Muslims, do not know of this beloved woman and many do not even consider her as his real wife since she was a captive and never converted) followed the recommendation of Allah, that the prophets wives were not to marry others. She remained a widow and when died, she has asked to be buried at the location out of Madinah( Not in Baqhii, where all his wives, except Khadijah were buried), but where she made love with prophet for the first time. The best example of humanity (Osvaton Hasanah) began his first relationship with love and his last wife gave humanity the best model of love.Unfortunately, in west, Islam is known for what is not and in east, especially the Muslim countries, Islam is practiced for what is not. This is why we are facing such a disaster today.Due to the socio-political reasons in the Middle East and many Muslim Countries, the people live day-by-day, have no plan and some time not much hope for future. There is hardly any plan for the most important action in any man or woman’s life (Marriage).
Here is just the opposite of what is practiced there. I remember my first roommate, in Detroit, near forty years ago, was a young Intern from Philadelphia, when I met him, he said he is engaged to his fiancé and he gave the exact time and location of the church where ceremonies were to take place, four years later, after finishing his residency.
A week before this arrangement, the beautiful fiancé had a car accident and died. I went with him to her memorial. Charles cried out of love, but shortly after he said “We planned everything, but the accident. I am sure she is in heaven as she carries my love in her heart”.
Yes we have to plan, the best way and the most thought of, but leave the final decision to Him. Prophet (PBUH) in one of the battles, had well-arranged a plan of action, as the army was moving forward, suddenly stopped and advised them to change their direction. His companions were quite surprised and asked him the reason. He had picked up a camel droplet and showed the undigested date in the animals stool. The date was from the palms of Qararit, indicating that the enemy’s army, have passed that way. And if the prophet (pbuh) proceeded, they would have faced the enemy that was ambushing ahead. Later He was found to be right. This was not revelation; it was Mohammad’s curious observation and experience.

AAB/ 2007